It’s a sentence I hear from many clients.
Why can’t I do this myself?
What’s behind this question?
It takes a new way of thinking to accept help at times.
Recently I heard of a perspective shift from a client. As a single entrepreneur woman, she had a lot on her plate. She also had her cats to think of. In thinking about how she was trying to do it all herself, she reflected on some tv shows from her youth. There was the Courtship of Eddie’s Father with Mrs. Livingston, there was the show Hazel and there was the Brady Bunch with Alice. It was an aha moment as she realized she needed help!
It takes awareness to reach this new perspective and reach out for help.
It takes courage to accept help in your personal space. It’s about a trusting relationship. It’s about knowing that there is no judgement in working with someone.
It’s acknowledging your need for help is not a lack of your skill or lack of determination. The most commitment need help too.
It’s acknowledging that your brain works in a certain way. It’s knowing that having someone else in the space helps your brain work best, helps you process in a way that works best for you and helps get the job you started finished.
It’s in finding who is a good fit for your team.
There are lots of potential members of your team. It’s your counselor, Stephen Minister, professional organizer and coach who create all the different successes. Finding the fit of many different people who can help you is what’s important.
There are many answers to why can’t I do this myself. There may be more than a single reason. Find what works for you and you can move forward with whatever task you are doing.
More ideas and resources for your team here.
All of your life you thought, hmmmm, I may be a little different than others in the way I organize, get things done, and generally fit in. You may have had trouble completing projects, getting motivated and getting started, and organizing your thoughts and your stuff. You decide it is time to learn more about yourself, and learn you have ADHD. Looking with objectivity of this diagnosis is difficult. If you have been recently diagnosed with ADHD, there’s a lot of information that can make a difference.
Think of this diagnosis as one that includes challenges to Executive Function, a part of your brain that involves planning and processing. It is more than just attention and hyperactivity. Executive function can affect your daily life including being on time, transitions, getting started, organization, prioritizing, motivation, and working memory. You will want to create a team that educates, informs and addresses ADHD challenges.
Associations are a way to connect and learn.
- Attention Deficit Disorder Association (www.adda.org)
- CHADD (www.chadd.org)
- These associations have online, national and local presence for you to tap into and learn about ADHD. Finding a local chapter makes for support and a sense of belonging in your community.
Reading may be a top priority for you. Blogs and books offer a look into the life of families and individuals with ADD.
Asking for help and creating your team are vital to your success. In the medical area, doctors, therapists, and psychiastrists will be vital. ADD Coaches are available to help you learn more about yourself and create the successes you need. Certified Professional Organizers will partner with you to create successful organizing solutions. Learn what your strengths are and work from that vantage. Most important, surround yourself with nurturers who will help you set boundaries and help you be accountable. Success is around the corner!
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Fall means back to school! The sunny days of summer are over and fall is a great time to tackle those home projects. Join me in learning more about organizing strategies at these upcoming events!
Fall Refresh on September 14
Fall Refresh is an engaging afternoon program about organizing and interior design. Certified Professional Organizer Ellen Delap will present Out with the Old . Interior Decorator Leslie Sarmiento will present Company’s coming! Refresh your home by decluttering and adding the latest in decorating trends. Bring at friend and join us at this free presentation at Kingwood Public Library at 1 pm.
Organizing for Academic Success on September 20
Struggling to help your child with school success? Join me in sharing techniques and tools to help your student get into the groove of school again. Class is offered by phone at 7 pm central time. Fee of $29. http://theprofessionalorganizer.com/organizingclasses/back-to-schoolwork/organizing-for-academic-success/
Organizing for Academic Success for the AD/HD Student on September 21
Join me for strategies to help your student with AD/HD achieve the success she/he deserves. Class is free at Kingwood Public Library at 1 pm.
Clutter Support Group beginning September 21
Have you had a life long struggle with being organized? Need support from a community of people who are equally overwhelmed? Join me in learning from others in the Clutter Support Group. This membership based group is the starting point for your journey in transforming your life, helping you define, establish and maintain an uncluttered lifestyle. Group meets for 6 weeks, starting September 21. Fee of $120. Contact Ellen for details.
Organizing for the Busy Mom and Dad starting October 5
Take a fresh perspective to improve your and your family’s quality of life! The Family Manager™system transfers management skills and strategies from the business arena to running your home and personal life. Family Manager skills help you reduce daily stress, create a smoothly running home, and have time for self care and recreation. Four weekly one hour teleclasses on October 5, 12, 19, and 26. Fee of $49. Contact Ellen for details.
My clients with ADD are passionate about their projects. Their energy for a project is an incredible resource and an important aspect for follow through and completion. As a task moves forward, the energy wanes and people with ADD are less enthusiastic. Staying engaged in the task and completion is equally important. In addition, people with ADD have trouble breaking down ideas into a series of smaller scheduled steps that help them make progress toward their goals. They tend to procrastinate which compounds the situation.
Creating a time line is important in following through for people with ADD. People with ADD know what they want, but how much time it will take and what sequence to work in often elude them. Start with the goal in writing and write out the specific steps in the project. Assess the time each step will take. Work backwards in a time line with a month at a glance calendar and write in a workable time line for completion. For people with ADD, enlisting help to get through the detail work with partners and designing a plan with accountability is a significant step. Help them find incredible partners who are have the skills they lack, whether it is knowledge of technology or other skills sets. Acknowledge the procrastination that can occur with people with ADD and find a trigger to help move forward. The trigger can be a simple one, such as a great location to work in, background music, or establishing a time of day to work. It is in partnering and accountability that completion occurs.
Trouble completing a task or project? How did you get to completion?