Setting Holiday Priorities


Manage your expectations.

During the month of November we are overwhelmed with holiday shopping, invitations, holiday meals, cookie exchanges and gifts to purchase. Without pausing, immediately we think we must do all of this.  If we are intentional, we can decide rather than react to the incoming information and activities. Gather your thoughts and your family to start planning what is really important. Managing our expectations means we can create the schedule and create calm for ourselves.

Choose your top three choices.

What do you and your family find most meaningful throughout the holidays? That could be seeing family, going to religious services, seeing holiday lights, or staying in to watch a holiday movie. Write these down and put a check next to each as family share their thoughts. Order your priorities from most to least important, and ask your family members to do the same.


Determine your “no” proposition.

Decide on what your “no’s” are and what to say to decline. It can be a simple statement that your calendar is already full. Being prepared to say no makes this easier to be true to your priorities.


It’s easier to make decisions with good self-care.

4 replies
  1. Seana Turner
    Seana Turner says:

    I’m such a planner that I actually struggle with spontaneity. BUT, I think this is the season to be open to doing unexpected things. My daughter and I decided to buy tickets to the New York Botanical Gardens train show since she will be finished with exams. That feels crazy to me to go do such a thing on a Monday, but as you say, ’tis the season!

  2. Linda Samuels
    Linda Samuels says:

    I love the idea of the “no” proposition! There are so many invites during this season, and going to all of them or doing ALL the things is a recipe for exhaustion and burnout. Instead, choosing wisely which ones to do or NOT do is key. We’ve already made some choices, and it feels better to be honest with what is enough. That way, I’ll have the energy and enthusiasm to enjoy the “yeses.”

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