Start the Year with Connection
Referred to by Dr. Edward Hallowell as Vitamin C (Connection), being supported and connected makes all the difference for our well being. Research shows that social connection improves physical health, strengthens our immune system and leads to overall longevity. It is easy to lose track of connections with the demands of family and work. Give connections the time and attention needed with these strategies to start the new year.
Finding and keeping Connections for ADHD Brains
Feeling overwhelmed creates a barrier between you and friends. It might be difficult to be consistently in contact with friends. Also, sadness and anxiety could have a role in your relationships. All these impact your connections with friends and family.
- Being inattentive to a friend or family member can be hurtful. Be present, listen and mirror back conversations to show you are tuned in and present.
- Notice if you are interrupting during conversations and pause before interjecting a story.
- Set time aside to be with friends with making plans and writing it on your calendar.
- Following through with commitments is an important part of any relationship. Use your best tools to be sure you are on time, at the right location, to meet and spent time together.
Quick and easy tips for ADHD Brains
- Keep a list of birthdays in your planner to send a quick happy birthday text to friends and family.
- Call to check in if you have a moment between meetings or when you are driving between appointments.
- Share a quote, article or meme in a text to a friend.
- Offer a sincere compliment to a colleague in a meeting.
- Share a podcast you love.
- Write a quick note and mail a card sharing how much you are thinking of that person.
Maintaining friendships and relationships
- Communication is important. Find a way to stay in contact that suits both you and your friend.
- Keep a healthy sense of boundaries in your relationships. Know when you have spent too much time together and need a short break.
- Your self care is always a high priority. If your friendships prevent this, reassess the commitment.
Creating and maintaining meaningful relationships are well worth the effort and the time.
I love that you mention trying not to interject your own story. This can become a habit that is hard to stop. Great tip.
I also find that having a friend drop a personal text to me means a lot. Ir’s been hard during COVID to feel comfortable enough to relax and “hang out,” so I appreciate efforts through any medium!
The value and importance of connection is undeniable. There are so many ways to stay in touch with people. And especially in these last few years when in-person interaction hasn’t been as easy, it’s great to access the other methods of being present like calls, Zooming, emails, texts, snail mail, and more. Connection doesn’t just have to be seeing people in-person, although that is one of the very special ways of being together.
@Linda we are people who love people!
Being connected can look like so many different things and happen so many ways!