Meet the ADHD Expert Laura Rolands
Throughout the month of December, I am honored and grateful to share posts by ADHD experts. In this series of Meet the ADHD Expert, our experts are sharing their thoughts about ADHD. Let me introduce guest blogger Laura Rolands.
Laura Rolands of MyAttentionCoach.com is an ADHD Coach who helps adults with ADHD/ADD pay attention, improve their time management skills and increase productivity. Her clients include students, adult and organizations looking for help with time management, productivity, organization, procrastination and other challenges related to ADD or ADHD. Register for Laura’s free time management guide on her website at www.MyAttentionCoach.com and listen to her radio show archives at www.PracticalADHDStrategies.com.
What was your first experience with ADHD?
I first learned about ADHD when talking with teachers at my child’s schools about attention challenges that we didn’t know how to resolve at the time. It was a frustrating experience in the beginning, but we worked together to develop strategies that have helped my child succeed. In reality, I saw ADHD, however for years in my work as a Human Resources professional. I just didn’t know how to recognize it at the time.
What was is one thing you want everyone to know about ADHD?
While it can happen, ADHD challenges do not typically go away with age. New challenges can present themselves later in life after the structure provided by parents is no longer applicable. Being aware of this can help the adults with ADHD to identify and develop strategies to assist them personally and professionally. Taking proactive action can also help build self-confidence.
What is your best tip for ADHD?
Be on the lookout for overcommitment and learn how to say no. ADHD can cause impulsivity that can lead to a calendar and to do list that is literally overflowing. Learn to say “no” to gain positive control over your commitments and schedule. Follow these skill-building steps:
- Identify situations where you make impulsive decisions to accept new projects or tasks..
- Rehearse saying “no” before entering the situation. For example, saying, “No thanks, I just can’t add anything new to my plate right now.” Avoid long explanations; they leave too much open to debate with the requestor.
- Practice your statement five times before entering the situation.
- Evaluate your progress and praise yourself to celebrate success.
It takes daily practice to build this skill. Start practicing today to “no” into a positive!
What is your morning like?
Mornings are relatively long at my house with the first alarm sounding at 5:10am and the last person leaving the house around 7:45am. There are 4 of us who wake up, get ready and head to work and school at various times. Mornings are rarely hectic though and I am thankful that my kids get out of bed without too much prodding.
Stay connected to Laura
Website: www.MyAttentionCoach.com
Facebook: www.Facebook.com/MyAttentionCoach
Twitter: www.Twitter.com/LauraRolands
What a great interview! Getting a handle on being over-scheduled and over-committed is huge. As an antidote, I love the strategy you’ve offered, Laura, about learning to say, “no.” But it’s not just saying “no,” but also keeping it simple and practicing. This way when you’re asked to add something to your already full plate, you’ll be ready with the tools you need. Brilliant!
Thanks for stopping by Linda! I agree, it takes practice and this is a great strategy to add.
Overcommitment is a societal problem. Sometimes we believe we have to be “all things to all people at all times”, but it’s not true. So, thanks for the reminder. These are good tools for all of us.
Thanks Susan for sharing your thoughts and stopping by!