Is it not in your nature to ask for help?
Have you asked for help and you heard crickets?
Is it easier to procrastinate about something rather than ask for help?
Let’s admit it, asking for help is hard. It may seem like it’s a signal about deficiency or weakness. It may be about fear and vulnerability. It may be a lack of a skill or an undeveloped skill. It could even be about being stubborn. A lot plays into asking for help. It’s time to acknowledge we are all not good at everything and play to our strengths.
It’s the best way to conquer a tough project though. It helps you move forward when you are stuck. It saves you time when you are struggling with a task or technology. Bringing together more hands and ideas can improve your project too. Is it time for you to assess asking for help?
The best way to start anything new is to start small. Ask for help with a small time commitment or piece of the project. Isolate just one thing that is holding you back on a project. Ask a trusted resource to help you with that one small task. If you are not sure what that one small thing is, ask a trusted resource to process the steps in the project to create the series of actions for completing the task.
Asking for help at work
Collaboration is a great strategy for asking for help at work. Create a team that works well together who create energy and more together. Find resources for a variety of needs that you have, whether tech, writing, calculations or other needs. Sweeten the pot with an offer to assist with a strength you have.
Email is your best tool for asking for help. Be sure to include a specific request with a deadline. Think of potential solutions as options that your resource can help you with, especially the small simple solutions. Think about additional resources like coaches, professional organizers, and productivity consultants who can also provide support and increase your productivity.
Asking for help at home
We often think our family is an unreliable source for help. However, asking for help at home is an important part of family cohesiveness. Even if you think it’s easier to do whatever yourself, teaching how to help others and team work is worth the extra energy and time.
It’s easiest to ask by starting with a family meeting. Even if there is a lot of eye rolling, your family will be happy to help with simple, small tasks that can be done quickly. Use a family chart to keep everyone on track. Set a time and date for your helpers to complete their work. If someone is already doing that task, count that. Find tasks everyone can do at the same time together to get a big job done too.
Have an array of resources at your disposal.
- My first go to is google and find online resources. Finding answers can be as simple as a few keyboard clicks. It takes a few minutes and already I know new tricks.
- My next step is to find someone in my inner circle who can respect my request. There are many colleagues, family and friends who have skills that compliment mine. I return the favor by offering something to help them as well.
- Finding resources in your community are a great collaboration as well. In my arena I love having interior decorators who work on color and space design, handymen who repair and hang pictures, and tech people who help make my computer and smart phone work well.
- Who would be a bonus to you as a resource?
Not matter the challenge, there is help there for the asking! Remember to share your gratitude for their help. It’s not only about how to ask for help, it’s also how to appreciate those helping out too.
Tricks and tips for any organizing or productivity challenge here!