A mom and dad remarry, and it is not quite like the Brady Bunch! The new American family comes together with kids, pets and way too much stuff! There are a lot of emotions involved as well as a lot of personalities. The job of creating a new space for the new family, as well as family cohesiveness, can be helped with the assistance of a Family Manager. A blended familyblending together is much easier with an organized approach to life.
From the start, there is a lot of territory to cover. The logistics of family stuff, such as laundry, dinner, kids coming and going, all add up to the same responsibilities as running a small company. Having a new persective brings order to the home. Mom and Dad can redefine the responsibilities with a clearer vision of how the family comes together. A great family calendar and family meeting are a must! A command center for paper keeps control of mail, bills and other papers that come from school. Setting up systems and routines bring order to the chaos.
Blended families come with a lot of stuff. There are two homes worth of goodies. How will this new home bring together the best of each? Every home is different in this respect and it is in respecting each other, the kids’ wishes, and good cooperation, that the new home evolves, especially in community spaces. In addition, kids need their own space with their personal belongings to create buy in for the new family. Kids’ personal spaces reflect who they are and invite them to be a part of the new family too.
It can be a struggle to get all these aspects into motion. Start with your family meeting and be consistent about hosting this weekly. And add a communication time daily. Keeping open to new ideas, from kids and adults, keeps the energy of your home positive.
Make responsibilities visual. Keep a family calendar posted in the kitchen with all different activities, from sports to church. Keep posted the chores list, nightly dinner and the laundry schedule. It helps everyone know what is the plan.
Be consistent about your rules in your home. Even if your kids are in other homes during the week, what works for your family should be consistent for each kid and adult. Everyone respects consistently enforced, simple boundaries.
Get help when you need it. Whether a family counselor or Family Manager Coach, be ready to include someone on the outside to help create order on the inside. Helping everyone share their emotions and come together makes all the difference.